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Kal

by KAL on 2005 Dec 5 - 22:27 | reply to this comment Thanks so much for all the in Thanks so much for all the input. I was glad to hear that other couples have struggled in this area too and had worked out some solutions. By the way we have had a nice reconnection since we got resituated after vacation. I got a very slight reminder of my husbands authority rather than the hard one I expected because he said I had been good as gold! I actually have been excellent for the past week even though I was a brat the week before that. He forgives easily. My minor surgery made me very sweet. And then my husband’s gentle care for me made me sweeter than any spanking could.

Being disconnected has always been an issue for us. I guess that is why taken in hand is so important to us. Staying connected just hasn't been easy for us. When we started taken in hand our connection increased to a level we hadn't experienced in a long time. We didn’t want to go back to that disconnected state. At those moments I fear we have lost the connection for good. I am afraid it will be like the old times when we became so distant.

We will have to work harder at maintaining the connection in different situations. We do fairly well in our normal circumstances but extra stresses throw us off track pretty fast.

Speaking of when the children were small. I am amazed anyone actually procreates after the first child. When is there 00:24:24 It’s just a miracle we ever had a third child. Our second child was in our bed until he was almost four years old! We just couldn’t get him to sleep in his own bed. I really do miss that time though. I would give up my job in a hot second to have another baby! (If I wasn’t too old and my husband would let me-ah well) What a joy the little ones were. But I do enjoy not having little ones in our bed anymore. Our sex life is much more frequent!

by forty something wife on 2005 Dec 6 - 07:03 | reply to this comment I too am missing my husbands control